Easing Into Change

Easing Into Change

Change does not need to be difficult, especially when the change is anticipated. Of course, there are those moments of unexpected change that show up and can take our breath away. If we begin to practice easing into the anticipated changes, it will help us develop the flexibility (or resiliency) to catch our breath when the unexpected changes pop up. A few things that can be classified as “anticipated change” are; moving, returning to in-person work or school, marital status, becoming a new parent, for example. 

Here are some tips to help make change more manageable.

1.    You don’t have to do it alone. Talk about what is going on with a trusted friend, keep a journal, share your feelings. Identifying and sharing can provide you with a sense of relief.

2.    Break down “large chunks” into smaller steps. Creating incremental change can feel more manageable and moderate than taking the “get it done” approach. 

3.    When trying to start a new habit or routine, link it to an established ritual. For example, if you want to begin a meditation practice, link it to your evening bed-time “turn down” routine.

4.    “Go with the flow” vs. “what we resist will persist”. Flexibility and adaptability will takes the bumps out of that frantic ride. And remember to  breathe.

5.    When change is unexpected or a big stressor, look at the blessing or lesson that the stressor provides. Every event is an opportunity for learning and growing.

6.    Be gentle with yourself. Give yourself time and space to adjust. If you can pre-plan and have breathing room to let yourself adapt, the big change can feel less extreme.

7.    Recognize that if you are making big changes, sometimes big feelings will come with them. Honor and acknowledge your feelings. Ride the wave of the emotion. The emotions are letting you know that you are being a part of the change! Celebrate the journey!

 “Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.” Jim Rohn

Easing into change